Tag: Mental Health

• Pivot

  Friends, this blog has been basically dormant for a couple of years, for lots of reasons. Our family has changed – my kids have gotten older, and as they have their privacy is more important. That’s the line that I thoughtfully and intentionally crossed when I started this blog many years ago – I gave…

  cadamy

  June 30, 2019

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  advocacy, Mental Health, Oklahoma, Politics, Race

• Tightrope

  Today, I had every foster/adoptive parent’s nightmare – getting a visit from the Oklahoma Department of Human Services, because I had been accused of child abuse. Someone called the child abuse hotline to say that there was a child in my home in handcuffs and shackles. What they didn’t explain to the child abuse hotline was…

  cadamy

  April 6, 2014

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  Adoption, advocacy, Mental Health, Reactive Attachment Disorder

• Super Woman

  I get a lot of “Shelley, I just don’t know how you do it.” Here’s my secret – I don’t. I fail miserably in lots of ways. Don’t get me wrong, I do my job well, I function as a mom, and I don’t drop too many balls overall. I don’t drink excessively, explore dangerous…

  cadamy

  July 23, 2013

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  Adoption, grace, Mental Health, stress

• As Good As It Gets

  Usually when I write, I try to come up with some kind of lesson, something I’m supposed to learn, some bigger picture reason for why things happen the way they happen. Today, though, I’m just amazingly angry. I just left T, my 10-year-old, at inpatient psychiatric care for the second time since November. It’s her…

  cadamy

  January 20, 2013

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  Adoption, Foster Child, Foster Parent, Mental Health, Oklahoma, Policy, Reactive Attachment Disorder

• Shadow Mountain

  For all you very kind people who have been asking about my middle kiddo, T, here’s an update: Eight days ago, T, my 10-year-old who I have fostered, then adopted, for the last 3 1/2 years, was taken by several Tulsa Police Department officers to Shadow Mountain for inpatient psychiatric care. Many of you may…

  cadamy

  November 12, 2012

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  Adoption, Foster Care, Foster Child, Foster Parent, Mental Health, Reactive Attachment Disorder